So I got up this morning and my wife and I talked while we were still alone for the morning. It wasn't the best rehearsed speech I've ever done, but I felt like I made my point that I needed to intervene for the health of the family. She listened and said she freaked herself out and was definitely not going to be doing any crazy shit like that anymore. And was open to getting therapy online at first. All in strides they say. So we came to an agreement and went on with our day. I stayed at home and worked remotely for the day to keep cleaning between my zoom meetings. Things were fine, the kids came home, the house was clean-ish and that was that. Of course this will be an ongoing situation of mutual respect, healing and frustration on both parts but we did it! We made it through a tough conversation making sure to remember that we are each other's best friend.
I learned that no matter how much experience you have with these situations they never get easier, but they make us grow. But they're hard - hard in the sense that you have to pull the other person apart to get to the pieces that are hurting the other person. And they don't always understand why. Then you retreat and feel completely exhausted hoping your words didn't inflict unintentional damage.
On a lighter note I discovered Trader Joe's Oat + Brown Sugar coffee creamer...and I poured a little in my coffee and then I took a sip and umm whoa.... then I looked back at the container of creamer.... then back to my coffee and then....welp I drank the entire carton of creamer right then!! ALL OF IT! I AM NOT ASHAMED OF ANYTHING 😂 I WILL DO IT AGAIN!!
